Tag Archives: Manipulation

The Cat Card

When you begin to feel sympathy for Norman Bates, you know it’s time to rethink your relationship with your mother. My mother, older sister to two male siblings, was a born caretaker. She married my father at nineteen and proceeded to have four children with … Continue reading

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Rantings of a Bad Daughter

I need to get a grip on what to do in dealing with my elderly mother, and by extension, my sister. I want to run. Again. Only farther, this time. By way of background, my father was an alcoholic of … Continue reading

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Still no break in my mother’s silence. I guess if we’ve learned anything, it’s that she didn’t need to talk with me every night as she claimed, after all. I’m feeling a bit down. I lost my father. And now … Continue reading

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Getting to Know My Mother

I’m becoming concerned that I very well may have a bad mother. As I mentioned in a previous post, my mother hung up on me for trying to set boundaries. It seems we’re going on a couple of weeks that … Continue reading

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The Thing That Wouldn’t Leave

Remember the old John Belushi SNL skit, where Belushi ensconced himself in the home of Jane Curtain and Bill Murray and wouldn’t leave? It came to mind this morning in thinking about my latest email from Mack. Yes, Mack still … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Breakup, Healing, Letting Go, Love, Manipulation, Moving On, Relationships, Starting Over | Tagged , , , , , , | 11 Comments

The Power of Vodka

I’ve been on antidepressants and back in therapy for a little over four months. It’s difficult to remember how tired and apathetic I was. How disinterested. But slowly over the past four months, I’ve begun to emerge from the pit I … Continue reading

Posted in Abilify, Abusive Relationships, Alcoholism, Antidepressants, Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Deplin, Depression, Sexual Abuse, Therapy, Wellbutrin | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , | 17 Comments

Eventually, I’ll leave you.

Here’s a little snippet Mack wrote to me once about an old boyfriend with whom he imagined I might get back together. Never mind the old boyfriend is married now and I hadn’t seen him in six years. You could wind … Continue reading

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Things That Made Mack Angry

I spent some time this morning browsing old Mack emails. I really need to delete them, but I’m not ready, just yet. I still want the reminder of what an abusive asshole he is. Here’s a list of a few … Continue reading

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Oh what a difference a year makes.

One year ago today. Mack and I were making up after a breakup. On my office floor. He allowed himself to reunite with me, but only after I apologized and groveled after breaking up with him. Because he was wearing … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Affair, Better-than-nothing, Breakup, Commitment, Drama, Forgiveness, Gaslighting, Liar, Love, Manipulation, Marriage, Mid-Life, Mindfucking, Relationships, Sex Voodoo, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

Relapse & Recovery

Last night I got a little melancholy. I think it’s still too soon to listen to Adele while cooking myself dinner on a Friday night. For a moment, I felt a twinge for Mack. I forgot the abuse, and remembered the … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Better-than-nothing, Breakup, Depression, Domestic Violence, Gaslighting, Getting Unstuck, Manipulation, Mindfucking, Moving On, Relationships, Settling, Starting Over, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , | 21 Comments