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The Cat Card
When you begin to feel sympathy for Norman Bates, you know it’s time to rethink your relationship with your mother. My mother, older sister to two male siblings, was a born caretaker. She married my father at nineteen and proceeded to have four children with … Continue reading
Posted in Cats, Codependency, Elderly Parents, Manipulation
Tagged Cats, Codependency, Elderly Parents, Manipulation, setting boundaries
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Rantings of a Bad Daughter
I need to get a grip on what to do in dealing with my elderly mother, and by extension, my sister. I want to run. Again. Only farther, this time. By way of background, my father was an alcoholic of … Continue reading
Blame
Still no break in my mother’s silence. I guess if we’ve learned anything, it’s that she didn’t need to talk with me every night as she claimed, after all. I’m feeling a bit down. I lost my father. And now … Continue reading
Posted in Abusive Relationships, Addiction, Alcoholism, Codependency, Death of a sibling, Healing, Health, Manipulation
Tagged Abusive Relationships, Addiction, Alcohol, Alcohol Rehab, Alcoholics Anonymous, Alcoholism, Codependency, Cutting, Death of a sibling, Eating Disorders, Health, Manipulation, mental-health, Mother
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Getting to Know My Mother
I’m becoming concerned that I very well may have a bad mother. As I mentioned in a previous post, my mother hung up on me for trying to set boundaries. It seems we’re going on a couple of weeks that … Continue reading
Posted in Addiction, Alcoholism, Alzheimer's, Codependency, Health
Tagged Abusive Relationships, AlAnon, Alcoholism, Alzheimer's disease, Codependency, Health, Manipulation, mental-health
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The Thing That Wouldn’t Leave
Remember the old John Belushi SNL skit, where Belushi ensconced himself in the home of Jane Curtain and Bill Murray and wouldn’t leave? It came to mind this morning in thinking about my latest email from Mack. Yes, Mack still … Continue reading
The Power of Vodka
I’ve been on antidepressants and back in therapy for a little over four months. It’s difficult to remember how tired and apathetic I was. How disinterested. But slowly over the past four months, I’ve begun to emerge from the pit I … Continue reading
Posted in Abilify, Abusive Relationships, Alcoholism, Antidepressants, Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Deplin, Depression, Sexual Abuse, Therapy, Wellbutrin
Tagged Abusive Relationships, Alcoholism, Antidepressants, Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Depression, Domestic Abuse, Incest, Manipulation, Marriage, mental-health, Sexual Abuse, women
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Eventually, I’ll leave you.
Here’s a little snippet Mack wrote to me once about an old boyfriend with whom he imagined I might get back together. Never mind the old boyfriend is married now and I hadn’t seen him in six years. You could wind … Continue reading
Things That Made Mack Angry
I spent some time this morning browsing old Mack emails. I really need to delete them, but I’m not ready, just yet. I still want the reminder of what an abusive asshole he is. Here’s a list of a few … Continue reading
Oh what a difference a year makes.
One year ago today. Mack and I were making up after a breakup. On my office floor. He allowed himself to reunite with me, but only after I apologized and groveled after breaking up with him. Because he was wearing … Continue reading
Posted in Abusive Relationships, Affair, Better-than-nothing, Breakup, Commitment, Drama, Forgiveness, Gaslighting, Liar, Love, Manipulation, Marriage, Mid-Life, Mindfucking, Relationships, Sex Voodoo, Uncategorized
Tagged Abusive Relationships, Affair, Breaking Up, Drama, Engagement Ring, Love, Manipulation, Marriage, Relationships, Starting Over; Better-Than-Nothing Man
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Relapse & Recovery
Last night I got a little melancholy. I think it’s still too soon to listen to Adele while cooking myself dinner on a Friday night. For a moment, I felt a twinge for Mack. I forgot the abuse, and remembered the … Continue reading
Posted in Abusive Relationships, Better-than-nothing, Breakup, Depression, Domestic Violence, Gaslighting, Getting Unstuck, Manipulation, Mindfucking, Moving On, Relationships, Settling, Starting Over, Uncategorized
Tagged Abusive Relationships, Breaking Up, Domestic Abuse, Getting Over Him, Manipulation, Relationships, Starting Over
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