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About Unconfirmed Bachelorette

Unconfirmed Bachelorette, a/k/a Ella, is a 50-something-year-old lawyer who wishes fervently she could retire from the practice of law and write full time. Never-married-childfree Ella resides in Austin, Texas with her three fluffy black rescue cats and two interlopers.

Unofficially Official

When last we met, I had concluded with near certainty that my position with BigLaw was reaching the end. I’ve been wanting to leave for years. In fact, when I returned from Belize, a trip with which I rewarded myself … Continue reading

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The End of Lawyering Is Nigh

I’ve been practicing law for twenty-four years. That makes twenty-four years engaged in a profession I don’t enjoy. I know I’m not alone here: Many lawyers dislike lawyering. There’s an entire industry geared toward helping lawyers leave the practice of … Continue reading

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On Spinsterhood

Wikipedia, states: Spinster is a term referring to an unmarried woman who is older than what is perceived as the prime age range during which women should marry. It could also indicate that a woman is considered unlikely to ever … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, BigLaw, Cats, Female Attorneys, Feminism, Gender Bias at Law Firms, Law Firm Gender Bias, Lawyer, Marriage, Mid-Life, Practice of Law, Relationships, Settling, spinster, Spinster, Women Lawyers | Tagged , , , , , , , | 20 Comments

Here We Go!

It’s 2019: three-hundred-sixty-five blank pages ahead. How shall I fill them? Will I reduce my consumption of anxiety-provoking news and current events? Will I use the new dumbbells I ordered last week? Will I add to my “home gym” (i.e., … Continue reading

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The more things change . . .

Two years ago, as my mother was dying from Alzheimer’s, I wondered how my life would be different once she was gone. I felt as if I was suspended between my life before the deaths of my nuclear family, and … Continue reading

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Lilac Breasted Roller

The Lilac Breasted Roller is one of Botswana’s most abundant and widespread species. I have dozens of photos of this breathtakingly photogenic bird. Here are a few of my favorites (so far).

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Thirsty Giraffe

I discovered on my Botswana trip that I am quite a good spotter of wildlife, beating our guide in some instances. But the giraffe was different. I had difficulty seeing them, even when they were pointed out to me, they … Continue reading

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Maned Lioness

This lovely lady is a rare maned lioness. She lives in Botswana, in the Okavango Delta, where I went in May for my fifty-fifth birthday. She is one of five known maned lionesses in Botswana. She exhibits some male behaviors, … Continue reading

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Now what?

Being a mid-life “orphan” is disorienting. As I contemplate what I want to do for the rest of my life, who I want to be, I realize how much time I spend looking over my shoulder for objections, judgments, or … Continue reading

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Cat Number Five

Meet Cat Number Five a/k/a Spotty a/k/a the Damn Cat. Spotty came to live with me late in the evening on September 15; the night my mother died. He has settled in quickly and well. I thought I would need … Continue reading

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