Category Archives: Commitment

I don’t know what normal is.

I wrote a post yesterday about getting back on the dating horse. But I’m not so sure I want to. Life is peaceful now. There is no daily drama. I’m not constantly irritated and frustrated. I’m content. In contrast, a … Continue reading

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Oh what a difference a year makes.

One year ago today. Mack and I were making up after a breakup. On my office floor. He allowed himself to reunite with me, but only after I apologized and groveled after breaking up with him. Because he was wearing … Continue reading

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How Long Until I’m Over This Breakup?–Part Deux

This blog began as a way to sort through my feelings about a difficult relationship. It then became a blog about ending that relationship; an ending I initiated. Finally, it morphed into a blog about recovering from an abusive relationship and … Continue reading

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Beware Chemistry

Personal experience has taught me time and again that chemistry is not necessarily a good thing when it comes to choosing a romantic partner. When I feel that inexplicable pull to be with someone I otherwise wouldn’t imagine dating in a … Continue reading

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Almost to the Starting Line: 2012

As I look at my 2011 Humane Society calendar, knowing there are no pages behind December, I am flooded with relief. What is it about closing out a year that makes us feel we can put our missteps and blunders, regrets and sorrows, behind us? Why … Continue reading

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The Ghosts of Lovers Past

Can you ever really get free of past relationships? I had it in my head that once I broke things off with Mack for good, I would remake my life and everything was going to be grand. Here I am, … Continue reading

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Phoenix or Cockroach?

How do you know when a relationship is dead? Even though you’ve torched the whole village and there’s nothing left but smoldering chunks of debris, is it possible there’s a phoenix waiting to rise in tragic beauty from the ashes? I’ve spent most of … Continue reading

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Everybody Settles

One of the top pieces of advice you’ll give or receive when it comes to relationships: “Don’t ever settle.” Let me tell you something, sister: Everybody settles. Let’s take my friend Deidra. When I met her she had been married for … Continue reading

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Nine and a Half Weeks

It’s been nine and a half weeks since I broke up with Mack. I keep wondering whether I made a mistake. When Mack asked if it was time we lived together, instead of having a conversation with him about my concerns, I decided unilaterally we … Continue reading

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Stay Off the Horse

There are two schools of thought on dating post-breakup: (1) It’s good to get right back on the horse to help you get over your ex; and (2) It’s good to stay off the dating horse for a bit and … Continue reading

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