Category Archives: Love

Cat Number Five

Meet Cat Number Five a/k/a Spotty a/k/a the Damn Cat. Spotty came to live with me late in the evening on September 15; the night my mother died. He has settled in quickly and well. I thought I would need … Continue reading

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My Big Sister

This has been an emotional post to write. It’s been a long time coming, but I’ve only just now found the strength to write it. Maybe the mindfulness meditation is getting to me, breaking down barriers.   My sister and … Continue reading

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Beach Houses and Dog Bowls

Being alive is weird. I’m sure being dead is weird, too. Or maybe not. Maybe your consciousness is dead along with your body and so there’s nothing left of you to witness whether being dead is weird, or not. But … Continue reading

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Girls’ Night “Out There”

I had dinner last night with the girls. Girls, as in two of us who are 50, and a third who will be 50 in May. There was lots of talk of dating mid-life, Match.com fiascos, and recent breakups (one … Continue reading

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Fog

My Pilates session was difficult tonight. I found several exercises beyond my physical capabilities. Feeling weak is foreign to me. But tonight I felt weak. After my session, I got into my car and sat. Slowly I put the key … Continue reading

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Spinster With Cats

I’m turning 50 and I’ve never been married. I never imagined I’d make it to 50 without marrying. Of course, I felt the same at 30. And then 40. Throughout my 40s, I thought surely I’d meet someone and I’d be married … Continue reading

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When the going gets tough . . .

. . . the tough plan a vacation and start a new hobby in connection therewith. In connection therewith? Lordy I do need a hobby. And a vacation. Last year I went on a gourmet cooking vacation in Tuscany. I’d … Continue reading

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Might I be human, after all?

I was thinking about grief the other day. Thinking my grief over my brother’s and father’s deaths last year didn’t last long. The crying wasn’t overwhelmingly intense. Or at least it wasn’t more than a handful of times. I wondered … Continue reading

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My Favorite Brother

I’ve been thinking a lot about my brother. Not the one who entered rehab Friday (of course, I’m thinking about him, too), but my brother who died in April. Cirrhosis. Hepatitis. When we did the intervention on Friday, I kept … Continue reading

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Roots

Now that the shitty events of 2012 are nearly behind me and I’ve written the obligatory farewell-cruel-year post, I’d like to get back to the topic that propelled me to start this blog: men. I started and stopped several blogs … Continue reading

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