Category Archives: Relationships

On Spinsterhood

Wikipedia, states: Spinster is a term referring to an unmarried woman who is older than what is perceived as the prime age range during which women should marry. It could also indicate that a woman is considered unlikely to ever … Continue reading

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Cat Number Five

Meet Cat Number Five a/k/a Spotty a/k/a the Damn Cat. Spotty came to live with me late in the evening on September 15; the night my mother died. He has settled in quickly and well. I thought I would need … Continue reading

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Enjoy Spite

According to, “spiteful implies a mean or malicious desire for (often petty) revenge.” Recently, I had that desire. I’d been working in the garden in the morning, trying to dig up the bastard trumpet vine that would not die. The … Continue reading

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My Big Sister

This has been an emotional post to write. It’s been a long time coming, but I’ve only just now found the strength to write it. Maybe the mindfulness meditation is getting to me, breaking down barriers.   My sister and … Continue reading

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Beach Houses and Dog Bowls

Being alive is weird. I’m sure being dead is weird, too. Or maybe not. Maybe your consciousness is dead along with your body and so there’s nothing left of you to witness whether being dead is weird, or not. But … Continue reading

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It’s never too late.

The title of this post. How cliché, right? My kitchen is swarming with fruit flies, and so I took my trash to the dumpster, running into a neighbor along the way. I remembered when I saw her that the neighborhood … Continue reading

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Girls’ Night “Out There”

I had dinner last night with the girls. Girls, as in two of us who are 50, and a third who will be 50 in May. There was lots of talk of dating mid-life, fiascos, and recent breakups (one … Continue reading

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26-Minute Memoir

Earlier today I posted about a 26-Minute Memoir writing exercise I recently ran across. I’ve now completed the exercise, and while it didn’t turn out as I envisioned it might, I’m going to post what I produced. Honestly, when I started … Continue reading

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Don’t look back.

I took my engagement ring to a jeweler today to sell it. It’s an absolutely gorgeous ring. Two and a half years ago, I got engaged to an unemployed loser. One of those guys who says he’s an artist (a … Continue reading

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My Pilates session was difficult tonight. I found several exercises beyond my physical capabilities. Feeling weak is foreign to me. But tonight I felt weak. After my session, I got into my car and sat. Slowly I put the key … Continue reading

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