Category Archives: Settling

On Spinsterhood

Wikipedia, states: Spinster is a term referring to an unmarried woman who is older than what is perceived as the prime age range during which women should marry. It could also indicate that a woman is considered unlikely to ever … Continue reading

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Relapse & Recovery

Last night I got a little melancholy. I think it’s still too soon to listen to Adele while cooking myself dinner on a Friday night. For a moment, I felt a twinge for Mack. I forgot the abuse, and remembered the … Continue reading

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No More Drama! (And This Time, I Mean It.)

William Wordsworth wrote: Strange fits of passion have I known. Wordsworth wrote of imagining the death of his lover. Rather than a fit of passion, to my thinking, it sounds as if he was suffering from drama he created with his thoughts. I wrote … Continue reading

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Embrace Life

While I haven’t quite achieved the nirvana depicted in this photo, I’m getting there. The antidepressants no doubt are doing their job. I wouldn’t say I’ve been transformed, but certainly there’s some reconstruction going on. On the antidepressant front, I’m now on 300 mg Wellbutrin, … Continue reading

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Dodged a Bomb

I’ve fallen in love with my iPad. The ability to purchase a book and have it be available instantly is terrific. Now when I get on a tear on a particular topic, the electronic world is my oyster. I’ve been … Continue reading

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Are you in an abusive relationship?

When we think of abusive relationships, the first thing that comes to mind is physical abuse. When you’re in a physically abusive relationship, you know it. You don’t have to ask yourself, “Is he abusing me? Is this abuse?” Then there’s the … Continue reading

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Vagina Worthy

I recently read a post on a terrific blog Sex on the first date and one of the commenters used the term “vagina worthy.” This harkens back to the Seinfeld episode where Elaine has a limited number of contraceptive sponges (due … Continue reading

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Codependent, Still

Because woman cannot live on antidepressants alone, I went to a therapist this week. My previous therapist, whom I’d stopped seeing a couple of years ago because I thought I had it all figured out, has retired and moved to an … Continue reading

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Train Wrecks and Moths

Now that I’m getting the depression under control, I’m beginning to ask myself some difficult questions. Like why it was so hard to end things with Mack, even though I’d been wanting out from the moment I got in. Why … Continue reading

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Everybody Settles

One of the top pieces of advice you’ll give or receive when it comes to relationships: “Don’t ever settle.” Let me tell you something, sister: Everybody settles. Let’s take my friend Deidra. When I met her she had been married for … Continue reading

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