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On Spinsterhood
Wikipedia, states: Spinster is a term referring to an unmarried woman who is older than what is perceived as the prime age range during which women should marry. It could also indicate that a woman is considered unlikely to ever … Continue reading
Posted in Abusive Relationships, BigLaw, Cats, Female Attorneys, Feminism, Gender Bias at Law Firms, Law Firm Gender Bias, Lawyer, Marriage, Mid-Life, Practice of Law, Relationships, Settling, spinster, Spinster, Women Lawyers
Tagged Bachelor, Bachelorette, Confirmed Bachelor, Confirmed Bachelorette, Old Maid, spinster, Spinster with Cats, spinsterhood
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House of Cards
My suspicions were correct: my boss is cheating on his wife. At the risk of turning my blog into a BigLaw drama, I present to you an account of how his shenanigans were confirmed.* *Yes, I wrote that last phrase … Continue reading
Posted in Affair, BigLaw, Early Retirement, Retirement
Tagged BigLaw, Early Retirement, House of Cards, Retirement
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Reigniting Old Flames?
I think my boss is having an affair. Like this jellyfish I photographed on my trip to the Great Bear Rainforest, he’s become rather slippery. It all started a few months ago, after he went to a college reunion sans … Continue reading
Posted in Affair, BigLaw
Tagged Affair, BigLaw, Boss's Affair, College Reunion, Mid-Life Affair, Signs of An Affair, Signs of Cheating
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Unconfirmed Bachelorette—The Early Days
You might have noticed some odd activity on my blog of late. Notices of new posts written years ago. Password protected posts. Bad links to old posts. This began when recent followers became interested in my archived posts, which date … Continue reading
Desperate Times Call for Desperate Measures
I’ve been worried about myself. My weight continues to creep up. I’ve been drinking two to four glasses of wine (or gin and tonics) nearly every evening. Sometimes more on the weekends. Walking, yoga, and meditation have been sporadic. I’ve … Continue reading
Posted in Abusive Relationships, Addiction, Alcoholism, Alzheimer's, Birds, Body Love, Death and Grief, Dementia, Depression, Domestic Violence, Elderly Parents, Family Business, Getting Unstuck, Healing, Health, Intervention, Lawyer, Living Life, Meditation/Mindfulness, Mid-Life, Nature, Photography, Sobriety, walking
Tagged 100-Day Sober Challenge, Abusive Relationships, Alcoholism, Birds, Death, Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Depression, Grief, HAES, Health, Health At Every Size, healthy-living, Lightroom, mental-health, Narcissism, Narcissist, nature, Nikon, Nikon D3200, outdoors, Photography, Sobriety
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The Problem
In her book, Writing Is My Drink–A Writer’s Story of Finding Her Voice (and a Guide to How You Can Too), Theo Nestor talks about the “resonant narrative.” Theo makes the important point that writers whom we admire are those … Continue reading
Posted in Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Elderly Parents, Forgiveness, Grief, Health, Memoir, Writing
Tagged Death, Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Elderly Parents, Estrangement, Healing, Love, Mary Karr, Memoir, Mid-Life, Reconciliation, Sexual Abuse, Theo Pauline Nestor, Writing, Writing Is My Drink
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Looking at Rocks
I’ve been home from the family cabin on Lake Superior for five days. My mind had been like the lake when it’s filled with silt–cloudy, murky, particles swirling around, obscuring from view the rocks on the bottom. I’ve settled. The silt is gone. The … Continue reading
Posted in Abusive Relationships, Alcoholism, Alzheimer's, Codependency, Death of a sibling, Domestic Violence, Elderly Parents, Lake Superior, Mid-Life
Tagged Abusive Relationships, Alcoholism, Alzheimer's, Death, Death of a sibling, Domestic Abuse, Dysfunctional family, Family, Family Dysfunction, Grief, mental-health, Mid-Life, Narcissism, Narcissist
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Kumbaya
A few weeks ago I had it in my head that I was going to take the high road and do some forgiving. Forgiving my sister for staying with her pedophile husband after he abused their daughter. Forgiving him for kissing me … Continue reading
Posted in Forgiveness, Healing, Sexual Abuse
Tagged Abusive Relationships, Forgiveness, Kumbaya, Pedophile, Sexual Abuse
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The Cat Card
When you begin to feel sympathy for Norman Bates, you know it’s time to rethink your relationship with your mother. My mother, older sister to two male siblings, was a born caretaker. She married my father at nineteen and proceeded to have four children with … Continue reading
Posted in Cats, Codependency, Elderly Parents, Manipulation
Tagged Cats, Codependency, Elderly Parents, Manipulation, setting boundaries
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Enjoy Spite
According to dictionary.com, “spiteful implies a mean or malicious desire for (often petty) revenge.” Recently, I had that desire. I’d been working in the garden in the morning, trying to dig up the bastard trumpet vine that would not die. The … Continue reading
Posted in Breakup, Chemistry, Drama, Jealousy, Relationships
Tagged Breaking Up, Cats, Love, Mid-Life, Relationships
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