Category Archives: Gaslighting

Unconfirmed Bachelorette—The Early Days

You might have noticed some odd activity on my blog of late. Notices of new posts written years ago. Password protected posts. Bad links to old posts. This began when recent followers became interested in my archived posts, which date … Continue reading

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What’s In A Name?

A journal by any other word would be as true. Or would it? What if you called it a blog? Blogging is odd. When I first started, I had no idea what it was about. I wrote and wrote and … Continue reading

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Things That Made Mack Angry

I spent some time this morning browsing old Mack emails. I really need to delete them, but I’m not ready, just yet. I still want the reminder of what an abusive asshole he is. Here’s a list of a few … Continue reading

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Oh what a difference a year makes.

One year ago today. Mack and I were making up after a breakup. On my office floor. He allowed himself to reunite with me, but only after I apologized and groveled after breaking up with him. Because he was wearing … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Affair, Better-than-nothing, Breakup, Commitment, Drama, Forgiveness, Gaslighting, Liar, Love, Manipulation, Marriage, Mid-Life, Mindfucking, Relationships, Sex Voodoo, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

Relapse & Recovery

Last night I got a little melancholy. I think it’s still too soon to listen to Adele while cooking myself dinner on a Friday night. For a moment, I felt a twinge for Mack. I forgot the abuse, and remembered the … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Better-than-nothing, Breakup, Depression, Domestic Violence, Gaslighting, Getting Unstuck, Manipulation, Mindfucking, Moving On, Relationships, Settling, Starting Over, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , | 21 Comments

Sometimes, darkness is easier than light.

Some time back I posited: Do men cause clinical depression? After giving it a lot of thought, I’ve come to believe the answer is, yes. When I say I believe my relationship with Mack caused my depression, I don’t mean I was sad about the … Continue reading

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Dodged a Bomb

I’ve fallen in love with my iPad. The ability to purchase a book and have it be available instantly is terrific. Now when I get on a tear on a particular topic, the electronic world is my oyster. I’ve been … Continue reading

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Are you in an abusive relationship?

When we think of abusive relationships, the first thing that comes to mind is physical abuse. When you’re in a physically abusive relationship, you know it. You don’t have to ask yourself, “Is he abusing me? Is this abuse?” Then there’s the … Continue reading

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Second Guessing

My intuition is spectacular. When a man is a creep, my gut knows it immediately. The trouble is, I second-guess myself. I don’t trust my gut. I’m not sure why I do this, seeing as my gut has proven time … Continue reading

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From Wikipedia: Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented to the victim with the intent of making them doubt their own memory and perception. It may simply be the denial by an abuser that previous abusive … Continue reading

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