Category Archives: Manipulation

Unconfirmed Bachelorette—The Early Days

You might have noticed some odd activity on my blog of late. Notices of new posts written years ago. Password protected posts. Bad links to old posts. This began when recent followers became interested in my archived posts, which date … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Breaking Up, Breakup, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, Manipulation, Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse | Tagged , , , , | 21 Comments

The Cat Card

When you begin to feel sympathy for Norman Bates, you know it’s time to rethink your relationship with your mother. My mother, older sister to two male siblings, was a born caretaker. She married my father at nineteen and proceeded to have four children with … Continue reading

Posted in Cats, Codependency, Elderly Parents, Manipulation | Tagged , , , , | 24 Comments

Don’t look back.

I took my engagement ring to a jeweler today to sell it. It’s an absolutely gorgeous ring. Two and a half years ago, I got engaged to an unemployed loser. One of those guys who says he’s an artist (a … Continue reading

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Blame

Still no break in my mother’s silence. I guess if we’ve learned anything, it’s that she didn’t need to talk with me every night as she claimed, after all. I’m feeling a bit down. I lost my father. And now … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Addiction, Alcoholism, Codependency, Death of a sibling, Healing, Health, Manipulation | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 29 Comments

I didn’t feel a thing.

I received an email from Mack the other day telling me he’d sent me the final payment. But instead of just telling me he’d sent the final payment, he continued with a long drawn-out emotional message about various and sundry things; things I don’t … Continue reading

Posted in Breakup, Getting Unstuck, Healing, Letting Go, Living Life, Manipulation, Moving On, Relationships, Starting Over | Tagged , , , , , | 13 Comments

The Thing That Wouldn’t Leave

Remember the old John Belushi SNL skit, where Belushi ensconced himself in the home of Jane Curtain and Bill Murray and wouldn’t leave? It came to mind this morning in thinking about my latest email from Mack. Yes, Mack still … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Breakup, Healing, Letting Go, Love, Manipulation, Moving On, Relationships, Starting Over | Tagged , , , , , , | 11 Comments

Eventually, I’ll leave you.

Here’s a little snippet Mack wrote to me once about an old boyfriend with whom he imagined I might get back together. Never mind the old boyfriend is married now and I hadn’t seen him in six years. You could wind … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Breakup, Domestic Violence, Jealousy, Love, Manipulation, Mindfucking, Relationships | Tagged , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Things That Made Mack Angry

I spent some time this morning browsing old Mack emails. I really need to delete them, but I’m not ready, just yet. I still want the reminder of what an abusive asshole he is. Here’s a list of a few … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Affair, Domestic Violence, Drama, Gaslighting, Liar, Manipulation, Mindfucking, Relationships, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , | 6 Comments

Oh what a difference a year makes.

One year ago today. Mack and I were making up after a breakup. On my office floor. He allowed himself to reunite with me, but only after I apologized and groveled after breaking up with him. Because he was wearing … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Affair, Better-than-nothing, Breakup, Commitment, Drama, Forgiveness, Gaslighting, Liar, Love, Manipulation, Marriage, Mid-Life, Mindfucking, Relationships, Sex Voodoo, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

Forgiveness is Dangerous

I have trouble with the concept of forgiveness. Maybe I don’t understand what it means to forgive. Having been raised Catholic, to me it means to be absolved of sins. Or as the forgiver, to absolve someone else of their … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Breakup, Domestic Violence, Forgiveness, Healing, Letting Go, Love, Manipulation, Mindfucking, Moving On, Relationships, Starting Over | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 24 Comments