Category Archives: Living Life

The End of Lawyering Is Nigh

I’ve been practicing law for twenty-four years. That makes twenty-four years engaged in a profession I don’t enjoy. I know I’m not alone here: Many lawyers dislike lawyering. There’s an entire industry geared toward helping lawyers leave the practice of … Continue reading

Posted in Africa, Attorney, BigLaw, BigLawBoss, Botswana, Early Retirement, Finance, Finances, Fuck You Money, Gender Bias at Law Firms, Getting Unstuck, Investing, Law, Law Firm Gender Bias, Lawyer, Mid-Life, Personal Finance, Practice of Law, Women Lawyers | Tagged , | 14 Comments

Here We Go!

It’s 2019: three-hundred-sixty-five blank pages ahead. How shall I fill them? Will I reduce my consumption of anxiety-provoking news and current events? Will I use the new dumbbells I ordered last week? Will I add to my “home gym” (i.e., … Continue reading

Posted in Africa, Botswana, Elephants, Getting Unstuck, Healing, Kayaking, Lake Superior, Living Life, Mid-Life, Photography, Travel, Wildlife, Wildlife Photography | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

Now what?

Being a mid-life “orphan” is disorienting. As I contemplate what I want to do for the rest of my life, who I want to be, I realize how much time I spend looking over my shoulder for objections, judgments, or … Continue reading

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Desperate Times Call for Desperate Measures

I’ve been worried about myself. My weight continues to creep up. I’ve been drinking two to four glasses of wine (or gin and tonics) nearly every evening. Sometimes more on the weekends. Walking, yoga, and meditation have been sporadic. I’ve … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Addiction, Alcoholism, Alzheimer's, Birds, Body Love, Death and Grief, Dementia, Depression, Domestic Violence, Elderly Parents, Family Business, Getting Unstuck, Healing, Health, Intervention, Lawyer, Living Life, Meditation/Mindfulness, Mid-Life, Nature, Photography, Sobriety, walking | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 20 Comments

The Fruits of Mindless Living

I’ve gained 48 pounds since my dad died in October 2012. Nearly 50 pounds. Who gains that much weight in what feels like overnight? I suppose 48 pounds in 20 months isn’t overnight; it’s 2.4 pounds per month. A slow, … Continue reading

Posted in Addiction, Death and Grief, Diet, Getting Unstuck, Grief, Healing, Health, Meditation/Mindfulness, Motivation, Weight Loss | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 15 Comments

These Boots Are Made For Walking

I used to think frugality was the same as being cheap. My mother shopped at garage sales and did not spend money on herself beyond necessities. She wasn’t into clothes, jewelry, or girly pampering. My dad, in stark contrast, was … Continue reading

Posted in Finance, Financial Advice, Investing, Lawyer, Living Life, Mid-Life, Retirement | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 26 Comments

When the going gets tough . . .

. . . the tough plan a vacation and start a new hobby in connection therewith. In connection therewith? Lordy I do need a hobby. And a vacation. Last year I went on a gourmet cooking vacation in Tuscany. I’d … Continue reading

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Inpatient Hospice

Dad is now in inpatient hospice. We moved just down the hall from his rehab room at the nursing home. Hospice has a small wing here, so the move was only minimally stressful. Yesterday, before the hospice room was ready, … Continue reading

Posted in Alzheimer's, Death and Grief, Dementia, Dying, Elderly Parents, Grief, Grieving, Letting Go, Living Life, Love, Marriage, Stages of Grief, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 9 Comments

Coming Home

My mother is a strong, brave woman. She set aside her desire to have my father here a little longer, and decided against the feeding tube. She said he wouldn’t have wanted it.But when we met with hospice, she couldn’t … Continue reading

Posted in Alzheimer's, Death and Grief, Dementia, Dying, Elderly Parents, Grief, Grieving, Healing, Letting Go, Living Life, Love, Marriage, Stages of Grief, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , | 11 Comments

I didn’t feel a thing.

I received an email from Mack the other day telling me he’d sent me the final payment. But instead of just telling me he’d sent the final payment, he continued with a long drawn-out emotional message about various and sundry things; things I don’t … Continue reading

Posted in Breakup, Getting Unstuck, Healing, Letting Go, Living Life, Manipulation, Moving On, Relationships, Starting Over | Tagged , , , , , | 13 Comments