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Category Archives: Dying
Cat Number Five
Meet Cat Number Five a/k/a Spotty a/k/a the Damn Cat. Spotty came to live with me late in the evening on September 15; the night my mother died. He has settled in quickly and well. I thought I would need … Continue reading →
Posted in Alzheimer's, Bald Eagle, Canada, Cats, Death and Grief, Dementia, Dying, Elder Care, Elderly Parents, Grief, Grieving, Love
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Tagged Alzheimer's, Animal Rescue, animals, Cats, Death, Death and Grief, Death of Mother, Dementia, Dying, Elderly Parents, Hospice, Mid-Life Orphan, Stray Cats
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To treat or not to treat
On Monday I got the dreaded call from assisted living (AL): mom fell again. She had a big bump on the back of her head. The AL nurse feared her hip was broken. So this time, unlike the last time, … Continue reading →
Posted in Alzheimer's, Assisted Living, Dementia, Dying, Elderly Parents
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Tagged Alzheimer's, Assisted Living, Death and Grief, Dementia, diabetes, Dying, Elderly Parents, Hospice
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My Key to Freedom
I hate being a lawyer. There. I said it. Out loud. I fucking hate being a lawyer. I dread getting out of bed in the morning. I feel utter despair when I think about doing this job for Ten More … Continue reading →
Posted in Blogging, Dying, Exercise & Fitness, Grief, Health, Insomnia, Meditation/Mindfulness, Overactive Bladder, walking, Writing
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Tagged Attorney, Death, Death and Grief, Depression, Ex-Lawyer, exercise, Health, Lawyer, Lawyer Suicide, Leaving the Law, meditation, Mindfulness Meditation, Morning Exercise, Suicide, Walking, Writing
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A few words about my brother
I’ve been working on my tribute to my brother at his service tomorrow, and here’s what I’ve got at this point. I still can’t recollect a specific “sweet” story. Dammit. A and P asked me to say a few words … Continue reading →
Posted in Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Dying, Eulogy, Fishing, Grief, Ontario, Travel, Writing
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Tagged Acute myelogenous leukemia, Acute myeloid leukemia, AML, cancer, childhood memories, chronic myelogenous leukemia, Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Eulogy, ford station wagon, Funeral, Funeral Speech, Grief, Grieving, Health, Lake Superior, leukemia, Mackinac Bridge, Memorial Service, Michigan, Ontario, orange soda, Station wagon, Travel
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Last Chance
My mother slipped back into the bargaining stage with my brother’s intervention. I was very hard on her tonight trying to get through to her. I made her cry. But she understands now she has to fire him if he … Continue reading →
Posted in Alcoholism, Dying, Grief, Health, Intervention
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Tagged Alcoholism, Alzheimer's, Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Health, Intervention, mental-health
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The Feeding Tube
My father had brain surgery on September 18, 2012 to remove a blood clot. In the first few days following surgery, he seemed better. We thought he was going to continue to get better and go home. He was eating, … Continue reading →
Posted in Alzheimer's, Dying, Feeding Tube, Love, Marriage, Uncategorized
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Tagged Alzheimer's, Death and Grief, Dementia, Feeding Tube, Health, Love, Marriage
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Burial At Sea
My sister was in a rush. Everything needed to be done right away. She said my mother needed closure. You can rush through the usual rituals following death. But you cannot rush grief. Still she was determined. My father was … Continue reading →
Posted in Death of a sibling, Dying, Grieving, Love
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Tagged Alzheimer's, Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Death of Father, Grief, Grieving, Love, Stages of Grief
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Vigil
The sun is beginning to rise following the third night of my vigil. The days spent in my father’s Hospice room with family and friends are precious. But it is the nights I spend alone with him that I find … Continue reading →
Posted in Alzheimer's, Death and Grief, Dementia, Dying, Elderly Parents, Grief, Grieving, Healing, Letting Go, Love, Marriage, Stages of Grief
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Tagged Alzheimer's, Death and Grief, Grief, Grieving, Living Life, Love, Marriage, Stages of Grief
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Inpatient Hospice
Dad is now in inpatient hospice. We moved just down the hall from his rehab room at the nursing home. Hospice has a small wing here, so the move was only minimally stressful. Yesterday, before the hospice room was ready, … Continue reading →
Posted in Alzheimer's, Death and Grief, Dementia, Dying, Elderly Parents, Grief, Grieving, Letting Go, Living Life, Love, Marriage, Stages of Grief, Uncategorized
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Tagged Alzheimer's, Death and Grief, Grief, Grieving, Health, inpatient hospice, Love, Marriage, Stages of Grief
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Coming Home
My mother is a strong, brave woman. She set aside her desire to have my father here a little longer, and decided against the feeding tube. She said he wouldn’t have wanted it.But when we met with hospice, she couldn’t … Continue reading →
Posted in Alzheimer's, Death and Grief, Dementia, Dying, Elderly Parents, Grief, Grieving, Healing, Letting Go, Living Life, Love, Marriage, Stages of Grief, Uncategorized
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Tagged Alzheimer's, Death and Grief, Grief, Living Life, Love, Marriage, Stages of Grief
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