My mother slipped back into the bargaining stage with my brother’s intervention. I was very hard on her tonight trying to get through to her. I made her cry. But she understands now she has to fire him if he refuses to go to rehab. Otherwise, she’s handing him money to keep killing himself. She worries about having to do this, to tell him on her own. I told her we’ll all be there doing it together, supporting each other. She doesn’t have to do it on her own. And we’ll have a professional to guide us.
I’m so angry with my brother for adding to my mother’s pain. He should be supporting her in her time of profound grief. Instead, he is intensifying her heartache. She lost her oldest son to alcoholism in April, she lost her husband of 58 years to Alzheimer’s in October, and my brother’s drinking has intensified ten-fold. The family business is in trouble as a result. She worries about supporting herself. She worries about him losing his house if she has to fire him. She feels very alone.
I’m so angry with him. And I don’t want him to die, too.
I don’t know that the intervention will work, but it’s all we have left.
- They say it happens in threes. (unconfirmedbachelorette.com)