Category Archives: Drama

Enjoy Spite

According to, “spiteful implies a mean or malicious desire for (often petty) revenge.” Recently, I had that desire. I’d been working in the garden in the morning, trying to dig up the bastard trumpet vine that would not die. The … Continue reading

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I don’t know what normal is.

I wrote a post yesterday about getting back on the dating horse. But I’m not so sure I want to. Life is peaceful now. There is no daily drama. I’m not constantly irritated and frustrated. I’m content. In contrast, a … Continue reading

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Things That Made Mack Angry

I spent some time this morning browsing old Mack emails. I really need to delete them, but I’m not ready, just yet. I still want the reminder of what an abusive asshole he is. Here’s a list of a few … Continue reading

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Oh what a difference a year makes.

One year ago today. Mack and I were making up after a breakup. On my office floor. He allowed himself to reunite with me, but only after I apologized and groveled after breaking up with him. Because he was wearing … Continue reading

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No More Drama! (And This Time, I Mean It.)

William Wordsworth wrote: Strange fits of passion have I known. Wordsworth wrote of imagining the death of his lover. Rather than a fit of passion, to my thinking, it sounds as if he was suffering from drama he created with his thoughts. I wrote … Continue reading

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Sometimes, darkness is easier than light.

Some time back I posited: Do men cause clinical depression? After giving it a lot of thought, I’ve come to believe the answer is, yes. When I say I believe my relationship with Mack caused my depression, I don’t mean I was sad about the … Continue reading

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Beware Chemistry

Personal experience has taught me time and again that chemistry is not necessarily a good thing when it comes to choosing a romantic partner. When I feel that inexplicable pull to be with someone I otherwise wouldn’t imagine dating in a … Continue reading

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Are you in an abusive relationship?

When we think of abusive relationships, the first thing that comes to mind is physical abuse. When you’re in a physically abusive relationship, you know it. You don’t have to ask yourself, “Is he abusing me? Is this abuse?” Then there’s the … Continue reading

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From Wikipedia: Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented to the victim with the intent of making them doubt their own memory and perception. It may simply be the denial by an abuser that previous abusive … Continue reading

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Time of Death

How do you know when it’s time to stop attempting to resuscitate a drowning relationship? To stop the chest massage and the mouth-to-mouth? When do you step back, look at your watch, and call it? After my epiphany about my apparent need … Continue reading

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