Tag Archives: Domestic Abuse

Looking at Rocks

I’ve been home from the family cabin on Lake Superior for five days. My mind had been like the lake when it’s filled with silt–cloudy, murky, particles swirling around, obscuring from view the rocks on the bottom. I’ve settled. The silt is gone. The … Continue reading

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Rantings of a Bad Daughter

I need to get a grip on what to do in dealing with my elderly mother, and by extension, my sister. I want to run. Again. Only farther, this time. By way of background, my father was an alcoholic of … Continue reading

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Loving a Pedophile

I haven’t had a television since Memorial Day. I got rid of my old Sony, and haven’t gotten around to getting a flat-screen replacement. Last night I knew the Sandusky verdict was imminent. It had to be. The man was guilty, … Continue reading

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The Power of Vodka

I’ve been on antidepressants and back in therapy for a little over four months. It’s difficult to remember how tired and apathetic I was. How disinterested. But slowly over the past four months, I’ve begun to emerge from the pit I … Continue reading

Posted in Abilify, Abusive Relationships, Alcoholism, Antidepressants, Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Deplin, Depression, Sexual Abuse, Therapy, Wellbutrin | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , | 17 Comments

James Frey?

Sometimes when I write about my family, I wonder if I’ll be perceived as another James Frey. After all, it is a bit much to believe all this could happen in one family. While not an exhaustive list, here are … Continue reading

Posted in Abusive Relationships, Alcoholism, Death and Grief, Death of a sibling, Depression, Domestic Violence, Grief, Grieving, Healing, Memoir, Moving On, Relationships, Sexual Abuse, Stages of Grief, Therapy | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

What’s Eating Me

I have been incommunicado this week. With myself, and with you. I watched teevee three nights out of five. Damn it! And I went out with my friends and drank wine the other two. Then again, I drank a couple … Continue reading

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Eventually, I’ll leave you.

Here’s a little snippet Mack wrote to me once about an old boyfriend with whom he imagined I might get back together. Never mind the old boyfriend is married now and I hadn’t seen him in six years. You could wind … Continue reading

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Things That Made Mack Angry

I spent some time this morning browsing old Mack emails. I really need to delete them, but I’m not ready, just yet. I still want the reminder of what an abusive asshole he is. Here’s a list of a few … Continue reading

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Painting Over the Past

The painter comes tomorrow. It feels like this change is about a lot more than paint color. It’s been six months since I ended things with Mack, give or take a handful of days. According to popular thinking, it was to … Continue reading

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Fork In the Road

There are lots of bloggers who start blogging because of a breakup. I started blogging because I wanted to break up. I eventually wrote my way there, but it took many months. Too many. After I wrote myself to the … Continue reading

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