Keep your laws off my body!

I live in the capitol city of the State of Texas, Austin. I went for a walk on my lunch break the other day. I walked up Congress Street to the Capitol Building. Texas’s Capitol Building is the largest of all state capitols and is second only in size to the National Capitol. Even though it’s slightly smaller in square footage, it is 15 feet taller than the Washington Capitol. So on International Women’s Day, I walked up Congress to our behemoth state capitol to bask in the female reproductive rights demonstration. As I stood watching from the other side of 11th Street, cars would drive by and honk. And the protestors would cheer. And I would cheer. I felt overwhelmed with emotion, and at the time I thought it was a First Amendment right-to-protest pride washing over me. But then today I read of the Democrat-proposed laws limiting men’s access to Viagra, and as I pondered that, I realized the emotions I’m feeling go much deeper.

In case you hadn’t heard, a Democratic Senator, Nina Turner, introduced a bill that would limit men’s access to Viagra (and other erectile dysfunction drugs) to make a statement about the dozens of anti-abortion bills that have passed around the country over the past year. Turner’s bill requires men asking for a Viagra prescription to be tested for heart problems and receive counseling about the possible side effects from Viagra (such as a six-hour hard-on). The bill also requires providing men with information about “pursuing celibacy as a viable lifestyle choice.”

And then there’s Senator Janet Howell’s proposed amendment to her state’s ultrasound bill. The bill would have required women to first undergo a vaginal ultrasound before they can have an abortion. Luckily for the women of Virginia, that bill failed. (A similar bill passed in Texas, however, and the Fifth Circuit recently found it enforceable.) The proposed Virginia amendment, which also failed, would have required all men wanting a bottle of the little blue pill first to undergo a rectal exam. (Stock in latex gloves went up twenty points that day.) While the forced vaginal ultrasound didn’t pass, Virginia women seeking abortions still have to undergo an external ultrasound.

Another proposed amendment (to a bill requiring pre-abortion ultrasounds) I quite enjoyed reading about, sponsored by an Illinois state representative, would require men who want their Viagra to watch a film about the drug’s potential side effects. The film lasts an excruciating six hours. (Okay, I made that part up.)

Another bill, and I think this one is my favorite, would permit vasectomies only if the man’s life depends upon the procedure. The Missouri bill stated: “In determining whether a vasectomy is necessary, no regard shall be made to the desire of a man to father children, his economic situation, his age, the number of children he is currently responsible for, or any danger to his wife or partner in the event a child is conceived.”

It was funny for about thirty seconds. I then pondered the quoted language: no regard shall be made to the desire to have children, economic situation, or danger to the health of the woman if a child is conceived.

When I was seventeen, I got pregnant having unprotected sex with my then boyfriend. I didn’t want to be pregnant. I had envisioned a future that didn’t include a baby; at least not then, if ever. I had plans for college. And I certainly wasn’t going to marry my boyfriend. So I went to Planned Parenthood, got the abortion, and that was that. I didn’t have to tell my parents. I didn’t have to be tortured with an ultrasound. I just showed up, listened to the medical risks, and went ahead with the procedure.

I remember my boyfriend dropping me off. I remember lying on the table with my feet in the stirrups. I remember the butterfly mobile on the ceiling. I remember my boyfriend picking me up afterward and taking me out for pizza. I remember playing Pac-Man at the pizza parlor. I remember feeling sick and wanting to go home. I remember the school calling my parents because I didn’t show up that day, and I remember getting into an argument with the principal for calling my parents and sticking his nose into my business. I remember handing the principal my doctor’s note, turning, and walking out of his office. It was none of their fucking business what I did that day, so long as I had a doctor’s note.

While I may have been just seventeen, I knew what was best for me. For my life. Would I have gone to law school had I had the baby? No. Would I have even finished undergraduate school? No. Would I have had a baby with a man who turned out to be a raging alcoholic? Yes. And I would have been a single mother, with no future. I knew what was best for me, I weighed my options, and I made my decision. Was it an easy decision? Yes. I know most people would like to hear it was a difficult decision, but it wasn’t. Do I wish I didn’t have to make it? Yes. (I got on the pill and was never faced with that decision again.) Would having to view an ultrasound before I could have the abortion have stopped me? No. It would have made me feel even more heartbroken and bereaved, but I wouldn’t have changed my mind. That was my choice. And if I had known then what I know now, I still would have made that choice.

While that choice now is severely hampered by all the needless bullshit and trauma young women are forced to go through (parental consent, ultrasounds, etc.), I hope that choice is never taken away entirely. As the placards at the protest said:

Keep your laws off my body!

About Unconfirmed Bachelorette

Unconfirmed Bachelorette, a/k/a Ella, is a 50-something-year-old lawyer who wishes fervently she could retire from the practice of law and write full time. Never-married-childfree Ella resides in Austin, Texas with her three fluffy black rescue cats.
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10 Responses to Keep your laws off my body!

  1. ryeder says:

    You need to realize the overall impotence of all politicians at large. The ineffective bureaucrats do not have the ability to find solutions to the important problems facing this nation, so they stroke their delicate egos by dreaming up shit like these laws. If it did not affect the citizens so negatively, this crap would almost be funny….

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    • I get a C for this post. It is terribly ambiguous. The proposed laws pertaining to male reproduction (Viagra and vasectomy constraints) are a sarcastic reply to all the laws passed in the last year limiting or constraining abortion. Regardless, I agree with your assessment of politicians. Impotent and in need of mental Viagra.

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  2. free penny press says:

    High Five!!!
    I have almost ( not quite, but damn close) come to the point that our lawmakers are in serious need of huge doses of reality..They are laughable and I give them zero amount of my brainpower..
    Loved your post but had a wee problem with you saying “a single mother has no future”..many single mothers have wonderful careers, etc..just saying 🙂

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    • Excellent point, Lynne. I’m glad you didn’t let that slide by. I should explain my thinking. I would have had no future as my parents would have forced me to work for the family business, like the rest of my siblings. I wouldn’t have gotten distance from my horrible family dynamic. I would never have learned to truly be independent. I see what’s happened with my siblings, and imagine I would have suffered the same fate. As would my child. And the sad cycle would have continued. But as you pointed out, there are many happy, successful single mothers.

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      • free penny press says:

        You and I are very similar.. i too let the “family campground” for I could foresee a lifetime of emotional servitude..
        for the record, I liked your post!!!
        (how’s the no tv going?)

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      • No teevee, Day 3. Last night I kept feeling a pull to turn it on just for the white noise, but it passed. Tonight I did turn it on, but only to do a yoga DVD, and then back off it went. The uncharacteristic Tuesday night post seems to indicate it’s going well.

        For the record, thanks!

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  3. blueviking says:

    I’m with you 100% on this one… there is a (limited) place for government in a free democratic society, but enacting legislation with regards to what an individual can and cannot do with their own body is certainly not it.

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